Loving Right and Staying Tight
It’s
February, Finally!! Yeey! And after the
intense Part A and B of January we could use some LOVE. I
wrote this post like 5 days ago but I wasn’t particularly sure this was what I want
to write on. Anyways, as I was delaying on this matter we had a small ladies
random discussion and fellowship with my girls about single-hood, engagements
and marriages. That served as my confirmation
that surely the Lord had placed this in my heart for a reason.
Let’s admit, your timeline is full of
everyone getting engaged, and it looks like they met yesterday and you have no
choice but to like and type (Aaaaw #
goals # Godspeed ), Yes ? . Don’t get me wrong, we are happy for them and wish
them all the best, but like everyone else we too, long for our turn when the
piece of Pie gets over to us.
Can we have
a heart to heart? P.s the post is longer than usual ...Mapenzi Overdrive :)
I am going to give you the Christian
perspective , as I said … I don’t like to talk about things far beyond me or
things I can’t relate to so we are keeping it 100. These are things I have read
about, purpose to do and I am passing it on the best way I know how.
1. Fix your eyes on God.
We are not of this world, so even when it comes to relations, singlehood
there are things that only God can help. That void that people look upon to be
filled by Mr. X or Miss S can only be filled by God first. When God created Eve,
Gen 2:2, I am sure they had some bonding time with Eve, while Adam was
sleeping.
The first encounter Eve ever came across was her maker (GOD) who
unleashed the Man, Adam. In short if you are trying to do it without God then
there is a high chance you it will turn into circles. You cannot buy a phone,
ignore its manual then when it heats up you want to throw the Phone away
because you are too proud to admit that you need the manual. Jesus is the
Center of everything, He directs you, helps you because God is the author of relationships.
2. Be Busy , Do You
Okay, there is something attractive about being comfortable in your own skin.
Adam was so busy in the garden bounding with Elephants and interacting with
Monkeys (I am sure he had a soft spot for them) that it only took God to realize
that the brother was lonely. On the same token, Ruth was busy gleaning in the
field and that got Boaz curious. Goal yourself with doing something that
interests you, have fun, be in service, enjoy your job …just do something!
3. Enjoy your own space
I can honestly say that this is one of my favorite things as a single person. It means, having time to just know you a bit more,
to grow and mature in everything. Allow me to let you in on a little homemade quote,”
your marriage journey, will definitely feel like an eternity compared to your
singlehood” – God willing! Love your own company; enjoy time with God as he
makes deposits into your life! Interact,
know people, laugh, smile and be glad.
4. If it’s not tight it’s not right
In single-hood, you meet various people with different intentions. My
pastor says if it is not tight then it is not right. What drives you to
settling down; God’s blueprint is marriage for Purpose! Maybe the motivation is
to take nice photos and Lock it with #Goals #BaeOnFleek #BooThrowndrown but it’s
more than that. There will be time for the extra cuteness but let it be build
on the right foundations. There is always an inner witness that attests to us! The
Holy Spirit , Listen .
Let me be honest here, I have met people and instantly I knew ….This is
one is bad for me! , not that there is anything wrong with them, truth is, I am
wrong for them as well. Sometimes I want
to hang on because of PRIDE , STATUS ,EGO , and also we have this weird notion
that being single means you are unwanted
or unattractive ,I could go on and on .
The point is, you know it! You can fake it, but deep know you know that
that person is not the one. Sometimes because it is hard to let go of the familiar
so I ask God, please if they are not sent by you, release them, and give me
peace about it! God doesn’t lie or repent, if he says he is not the one, you
can cash that in Dubai or the Mara but it won’t succeed. Honestly, it is for our own good that God leads
us. Jeremiah 29:11 ….
(Pheeew that was deep ! )
Go on, Love Yourself!
Lastly, learn to love the parts in your life that no one applauds, like
john legend says …Love your curves and all your edges! I am not trying to build
relationship 101 tips and how to be single advice. There is no template that
works for All but the Wisdom from God’s word underlines that which our heart desires.
whether Single , in a relationship
, in a situation-ship or married , Love the Lord with all your heart , mind ,
body , there lies the secret of your LOVE story .
Awesome..... We need God in everything
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ReplyDeleteSure thing dear 🙏 ...Always.
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Yes Yes Yes. We should be first be the Bride of Jesus Christ before anyone else
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